Letting Pets Say Good-Bye

The majority of homes have multiple pets. What happens when it is time for one pet to cross the rainbow bridge? Will the others know? Will they be sad?

At a spiritual level, yes, the other pets will know. But at the physical level they need to say GoodBye.

Most animals have loving relationships with the other pets in the home (or barn). They form bonds and friendships. There are even many circumstances where a “pair’ is together for a decade or longer.

Yes, the transition of one will make the other sad. Maybe even depressed.

Yes, if you don’t explain things to your pet they will wonder why the other pet just disappeared or never came home (barn).

Here are some ways to make this difficult event easier for the other animals in the home.

In either situation, leave something that belonged to your angel pet around the house/barn. Something the others animals can visit, stay close to, to feel comfort from. And explain again.

Explain to the other(s) what will happen and why.

Bring your pets together and tell them all it is time to say GoodBye.

Ideally, allow the remaining pets to see, smell, and process the angel pet’s body after the angel has transitioned.

If that is not possible, allow your angel pet to lay on a blanket while transitioning, wear a collar, or halter or have something on its body. Keep this on during the transition. Bring this item back to the other pets in the home/barn and leave it somewhere the animals frequent. The item (ideally a blanket or collar) will have the angel’s scent, as well as the scent of physical death (harsh term, I know. But it’s what animals smell). The animals will smell these scents and know what happened.

If you do the things above, the pets will understand and process the change. They will be sad. They will grieve. Like humans do.

Don’t forget them in the grieving process. They will need extra love and attention. Especially if they are the last animal left in the home, alone. Or if they lose the friend they were with for decades. Keep checking on them. Keep loving them.

And lastly, YES your angel pet will visit and your in house pets will see and feel the angel. This will help at a spiritual level. But like human, animals have a spiritual level and a physical level. The physical level will continue to grieve, missing their physical friend. Even though, like us, we know the angel is around.

Pets develop friendships, deep love, and connection with each other. They need you to help them get through it.

Potty Training Dogs

Just a quick tip because most dogs will need to learn about potty training or need a refresher.

If your pet is unsupervised they have the ability to use any part of the house as their bathroom. Why would you assume they know they shouldn’t? They don’t. Unless someone teaches them consistently they don’t know. They don’t know right from wrong, they know what they’ve been taught (or not taught). And even IF they know to use the bathroom outside, if they are new in your house they don’t know where the door is.

Spankingor yelling at your pet for using the house as a bathroom will not work. Even if you catch them in the act. Animals learn best when undesirable behavior is never an option. It’s avoided. It’s prevented.

Potty training can be time consuming and frustrating because it can take a REALLY long time. But there is a way to speed it up?

Keep your dog tethered to you at ALL times. Puppies, adults, seniors, any dog that is moving into your home. Sound inconvenient? It is. But guess what it works SO well!

You will see when your dog is starting to show signs of needing to go to the bathroom. You will see sniffing, restlessness, etc. And you can bring your dog outside when you see these signs.

If your dog does seem to pee without you noticing ahead of time, I guarantee youll catch your dog in the act mid stream and you can pick the dog up or walk the dog outside. No harsh or loud words needed. Because you catch your dog in the act it is an effective correction.

If your dog is unsupervised around your house, you are less likely to notice the signs or if the dog uses the bathroom. And then it’s too late.

No matter what, consistency is the key. Your dog needs to be tethered to you all day every day for this to work quickly. But know what the added bonus is? The best part?

The relationship you will develop with your dog during this time will be so deep and so connected. You will literally be spending all your time together. Your dog will learn to trust you and to follow you (this helps recall!).

It is also very easy to ask for random “sits” or “downs” at various times during the day. Working your dog like this helps with enrichment, education, bonding, and stress relief. There are so many benefits.

If you have a new dog coming to live with you or just recently brought a dog into you family give it a try! But really give it a fair chance. Its not just a few days, its more like a few weeks. All day, every day, consistently. And crate when you aren’t home. Or can’t tether.

Treats & Snacks!

My Family laughs at me because I give my dogs such SMALL treats.

Here’s the deal.

Animals aren’t like people. Their *satisfaction* from a human giving them a treat is NOT based on size. It is the connection of human to animal. The touch. The sharing.

Every single time I eat, I share with my dogs. Sometimes it is my own food, sometimes their dog snacks. But every time. I share 5 or 6 (on average) bites with them each time. Over the course of a day, between sharing when I eat, or just giving them snacks for rewards, they probably get 30 “snacks” a day. Sounds like a lot right? But they are so small it is not that much.

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Separation Anxiety

Talk to your pet like you’d talk to another human. You would not walk out of the house without saying a word if your partner or child was in the same room, or likely even in the house. You’d tell them you’re leaving and maybe even for how long and what you’re doing. Tell your pet:

* You’re leaving

* You’re coming back (very important for pets with separation anxiety)

* How long you expect to be gone

* Where you’re going

Pets are very intuitive. They understand and the know. They know more than you think they do.

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Who’s Point Of View?

The more you start looking at animals as equals and seeing their emotions, behaviors and quirks from their point of view, the happier they will be. They will engage more. They will open up more. Their personalities will shine more. They will behavior “better”. They will understand more.

I was always a gentle, patient, and kind guardian. 20 years ago I had happy pets. But I was seeing them from a human perspective. I was humanizing them. Placing my emotions and thoughts on them instead of trying to see their own thoughts and emotions and perspectives. I was placing my human ideas of why they behaved a certain way.

Now, holy cow! My pets are a level of happy that I never knew existed! All because I started seeing things from THEIR perspective, THEIR understanding, THEIR thoughts and emotions and most importantly their WHY behind their behaviors. Not the why I placed on their behavior, from a human perspective. I thought I was seeing things from their perspective often, but I wasn’t. I let human thoughts and emotions get in the way.

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Your Equal

When you see your animals as equals instead of something you “own” your entire relationship will change for the better.

I have always loved animals. I have always been an animal person. I always did the best I knew how to do and followed what I thought was the right way to do things. I was always kind, never forceful. My animals have always been happy and loved. They were always happy.

But, I didn’t always see their behaviors from their perspective. I saw it through mine in my 20s and early 30s. Once I started really communicating with animals, lots of them, I started seeing their behavior from their perspective and it changed everything!

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Your Energy Affects Your Pets

One of the pets last week shared this with me. So I am sharing with all of you.

We our pets are intuitive and they are sent to us to help us grow, learn and expand. They guide us and teach us and protect us. One of the ways they protect us is by absorbing as much of our “negative” energy as they can. This can be sadness, guilt, anger, hurt, depression, etc.. they take it from us so we don’t need to carry it. They release it from themselves as they can through shaking, rubbing on the ground, sunlight, scratching, etc.

When they absorb more than they can release they get sick, disease sets in, they get crabby, depressed, sad, anxious, etc…

So as guardians we must try to reduce the amount of low vibrational energy we expose them to so they don’t absorb it.

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Keeping Your Pet’s Energy Balanced

Animals are high energetic beings. They are so sensitive to everything around them and they absorb so much of it. When animal’s shake (picture a wet dog or a cat that gets up from a nap and shakes), this is releasing energy they have absorbed from humans. It is how they stay in balance.

Animals with longer fur have more of a buffer before the energy moves inside of them. They can carry more on their exterior.

Even with shaking, sometimes they need our help because they are holding too much. This can happen when there is a lot of grief or stress in a home, or when an animal frequents public places or vistors/guests (lots of human interaction).

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Preferred Phrases

When I talk with the animals they often share preferred phrases with me. When they do, I make a commitment to use these terms.

Recently, pets have used the word “transition” instead of “euthanasia”, “dying”, and even “passed”.

I often ask them why. With this the general consensus is because they are not moving on in any way, they are transitioning into a different form, still as actively involved in their guardians’ lives.

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Proper Correction

One of the most important messages I want to send is about delayed correction.

This is one of the biggest misunderstandings I see between humans and animals.

Unless you actually catch your pet in the act of undesirable behavior, it is TOO LATE to correct them. They will not understand what they are being corrected for. All you will do is create confusion and lack of trust.

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