Humans tend to view many animal behaviors as destructive behaviors. However, to an animal, these are natural behaviors they need to engage in. I want to start a thread where you can ask about a common animal behavior (any species) often labeled as destructive. I will give you the reason for the behavior, that fits the majority.
I can’t answer about specific pets or unique behaviors. I would need to connect with your animal to do that. However, I can answer about common behaviors that most animals exhibit. The majority answer may or may not apply to your specific pet, but it is my hope that it will apply to the majority of those reading that have animals displaying the behavior.
We have domesticated our animals. But we have NOT domesticated many of their natural behavioral instincts and it is very important to remember that if you want a happy and healthy pet. They have adapted so well to domestication and living in a human world, but they still have instincts and behaviors from their ancestors and always will. They will still have their own species needs and behaviors.
Here’s an example: Shredding (dogs)
Dogs will shred toys, often pulling out a squeaker, or at the least the fluff. Dogs will shred pillows and rip up blankets. Dogs may even rip up a couch cushion.
Why do dogs do this? The majority of dogs do this because it mimics their hunting and eating behavior. As a pack they will bite, pull, tear the meat off their prey. This is how they eat. Ripping it apart piece by piece. This behavior causes calmness, satisfaction, and accomplishment.
It also engages their nose as they move things around to decide which piece to tear out next. It engages their brain again, like a puzzle, which piece to pull out next. And it exercises their jaw (like chewing). Dogs must maintain a strong jaw (the jaw has muscles) for survival.
And that is why dogs love to shred.
It is your job as a guardian to provide them with acceptable items to shred so they can satisfy this instinct. There are even toys that you can restful over and over and over! And if you really want to help your dog feed “wild”, take those restuffable toys and add pieces of for or treats in there for them to find! Then they really will be eating!
Animals that bite, growl, scratch, buck, rear, kick or bolt are often labeled as dangerous or difficult.
These animals are NOT that at all. They are usually the most sensitive animals.
These animals resort to these behaviors, which are forms of communication, because their more subtle, polite ways of communicating to tell you something is wrong, have been ignored.
They have run out of ways to communicate gently so they are using the only form of communication they have left. It’s always a last resort for these animals. By the time they get to that point they have been pushed so far there is no other option.
These animals need patience, understanding, and most importantly someone that is willing to observe and listen to the whispers.
These animals are loving, sensitive sentient beings that have had their voices ignored too many times. They are not dangerous or difficult. Starting listening to them and theyll show you who they truly are.
“Things can get better but I will never be perfect. “
It is important we always remember this.
Our animals can be easy to live with, they can learn our expectations, routines, and way of communicating. They can learn appropriate behaviors. They can learn how to adapt to this human world.
But they can never be perfect. They will make mistakes. They will have accidents in the house. They will make messes.
I know most of us don’t expect them to be perfect. But do we expect them not to make mistakes at all?
They will still make messes. They might have an odd day. They might accidentally break something. They may have an accident in the house.
Sometimes we get the urge to need the bathroom quickly or unexpectedly but we can just go. It happens to them to. If no one is home, or they don’t have time to ask, or aren’t noticed when they do ask… they’ll have an accident. Even the best, cleanest animal.
And even more simple, humans make mistakes ALL the time. Animals will too.
So remember though you may not expect them to be perfect, do you expect them not to make mistakes in certain areas? I think some of us do.
But I do promise you, they don’t do it intentionally. They try their hardest NOT to make mistakes, even when they don’t fully know what we want.
Did you know that January is National Unchain A Dog Month
While most of us would never physically chain our dogs, I’m reminded restrictions don’t just come from chains.
Psychologically, yes chaining dogs is very harmful to them. It’s restricting. It usually leads to aggression, insecurity, frustration, anxiety, fear, and mental decline. Chained dogs feel restricted physically and emotionally. But not all “chains” are metal.
Though I know you all get it and don’t actually chain your dogs, lets think about how we “unchain” the non-metal chains for our loved pets.
* We can “unchain” our expectations of our dogs. Let them be who they are and not label them as “stubborn” or “reactive”. Those labels limit a dogs expression and tell the dog thats who we want them to be! They feel our energy when we use those terms.
* “The invisible chain” Sometimes even our loved house dogs feel restricted emotionally, mentally or energetically when their voices, requests, needs, and emotions aren’t heard or correctly understood.
* We can give them “freedom”. Let them choose where to walk, when to leave the house with use and when not to. We can honor their preferences to food, space, routines, and touch. Communication is the bridge that allows choice. And we need to be willing to listen.
When we communicate with our dogs and open ourselves up to what they are trying to communicate with us, we “unchain” their voices. When that happens something
Shifts for them and for us.
I am so grateful so many of you already live understand the value is keeping our dogs off physical chains. Our dogs deserve more than a life tied to a chain, physically or metaphorically.
If possible, please help an organization that unchain dogs. There are many. They provide large kennels and doghouses for the dogs. You can help through your time, a donation, or by spreading awareness. So many dogs ARE truly chained and even just doing one thing, one time, may help a chained dog become “unchained” and live a life that is more free.
Animals are very sensitive to energy. That’s why the words we use and the names we call them affect them so much. They become that energy.
They don’t understand jokes, so if we say “youre a pain in the butt”, even if we are joking, they feel we are being serious. Humans joke all the time. We may call them stubborn or a brat as a joke. Or maybe we mean it! But either way, to them, the words we say are true. So they feel like they are stubborn or a brat and they will become that way.
If we say they are aggressive, reactive, or mean, they will be that way. They think they are being what we want them to be because we label them that way!
Sometimes, again joking, we may say our pet is “not smart”, dumb, or stupid. Guess what? That hurts their feelings and they will again starting acting in a way that matches their label. Why? To try to please us. They think that’s what we want them to be because we label them that way.
I wish humans knew how much the words they use affect their pets emotionally and affect their pets behaviors, even if you’re joking!
If you tell them they are a lot of work, annoying, or frustrating they will be. Then imagine THEIR frustration when you are frustrated with them being what they think you want them to be!
Try to use labels that create the type of pet behaviors you want to encourage. Try to use labels that make your pet feel confident, safe, and happy! Try to use labels that make your pet feel loved and appreciated.
Label them as * smart. *funny * brave * agreeable * easy * and other similar terms.
Say to your pet “youre so easy to live with. “
“You make my days so easy”
“You are fun to be around!!”
“You are SO smart!”
“You do everything right.”
“You fit in seamlessly!”
There are so many ways to label our pets with positive, uplifting, beautiful labels. So many labels we can use that help them be the best they can be. So many labels that make the dynamics in the house easier instead of harder.
If you want to know how your pet feels with the words and communication in the house you can give your pet a chance to talk during a reading.
Two is always better than 1 when it comes to animals!
With very few exceptions, two animals are better than one because all of our domestic pets are meant to live with others of the same breed. Cats live in a colony. Dogs live in packs. Horses live in herds. Birds live in flocks. You get the idea.
Now of course due to trauma or lack of socialization some animals simply can not cohabitate with others. But, most of them cant. Issues arise when humans do not allow proper slow introductions.
Common mistakes made by humans when adding new animals to the family – even when your current pet(s) are very social.
Introductions done inside the home (introductions should be on neutral ground) If you have indoor cats, find a safe space in a garage or basement (somewhere your cat doesn’t often go)
Forcing pets to “like” everyone. Some pets won’t like another animal and thats ok! They don’t have to like them to cohabitate. They just won’t be best friends. They can learn to respectfully cohabitate with ANY animal if you give them the tools, guidance, and patience to do so. I have experienced this in my home when I added my dads dog to our family. (Read the story in comments)
Give up too quick. You don’t make a best friend in 30 minutes. Don’t expect your pet to make a best friend right away either. It takes MONTHS.
Blaming one animal if the introduction goes poorly. Yes, there are times it is one animal who instigated, BUT it’s not that animals fault. That animal may have felt unsafe, threatened, or unsure because of a mistake a human made with the introduction.
Setting pets up to fail by throwing them together too soon. Adding a new animal to a family means separation from each other when not supervised, for longer than humans want.
Not putting in the time or effort and expecting instant gratification. Humans love instant gratification. Many get frustrated, annoyed, or impatient when things aren’t instantly easy. Animals feel this energy and it escalates tension. If you don’t put in the time or effort you are setting them up to fail. All of them.
Not taking into consideration an animals past. Humans go through trauma and it can stay with them for their entire lives. Animals are the same. If they have gone through trauma do not expect them to leave that at the door when they enter your home. It comes in with them. And if you put them into a situation that triggers that trauma you are setting them up to fail.
Every single animal CAN succeed if humans take the time, put in the effort, and have the patience. When you bring a new baby home from the hospital your current kids may be jealous, mad, or pull “tantrums” because they don’t want to share attention. Animals are the same. They are the equivalent of a 2 year old. You wouldn’t bring your newborn back to the hospital. You would work with your kids over time to cohabitate. Fully expecting challenge and behavioral issues along the way. Animals are the same.
THE STORY OF ADDING BUCK TO OUR FAMILY
Here is my story of animals living together that don’t “like” each other.
When my dad died in April of 2024 I inherited his black lab, Buck. My pitbul, Titan, HATED buck. Buck was about 4 years old, Titan about 5. They met as young dogs but Titan never accepted Buck. He would growl, lunge, full on attack. We worked on pack walks, etc. but honestly never dedicated enough time to it because they didn’t live together so we just said nevermind.
I would go visit my dad and if Buck was outside and Titan was in my car he would go nuts at the window, agressive barking, trying to get out when I’d open the door, etc. Like most, I ignored it because I knew animals do not have to like everyone they meet, just like humans dont.
Once Titan even jumped out of my open sun roof to go full on attack Buck. Another time, Titan ran across a 10 acre field to go attack Buck. Titan went out of his way on many occasions to seek out Buck and fight. Buck never once retaliated. It was a one sided hate.
Clearly, I never thought I was going to inherit my dad’s dog. My dad died unexpectedly and rehoming Buck wasn’t an option. Animals are family. So I committed to making this work. I was forced. It took months. Months of me having them on leashed when in the house. Correcting and redirecting Titan when he would go after Buck.
Titan was tethered to me anytime Buck was in the main area of the house. Sometimes Buck would get a break in the bedroom and TItan could be untethered but I had to keep reminding Titan to not go to the door and try to get Buck, through the door.
Then it went from attacking intentions to hackles up. Then it went from hackles up to Titan being tense. Then it went from Titan being tense to Titan being off the tether, but my eye very on him. Because if Buck made one move that TItan didn’t like, the light switched and Titan went after him.
Titan was tethered to me anytime Buck was in the main area of the house. Sometimes Buck would get a break in the bedroom and TItan could be untethered but I had to keep reminding Titan to not go to the door and try to get Buck, through the door.
Then it went from attacking intentions to hackles up. Then it went from hackles up to Titan being tense. Then it went from Titan being tense to Titan being off the tether, but my eye very on him. Because if Buck made one move that TItan didn’t like, the light switched and Titan went after him.
Titan doesn’t listen to anyone else so I always had to be around when Buck was in the main area.
Now, they are fine! They cohabitate and they are ALL happy but they don’t like each other. Buck growls at Titan out of fear, Titan has learned to ignore it. Not many dogs could stand near a dog growling at them and not retaliate, but Titan has learned not to. Titan is a very domninant, alpha dog, but he has learned that he has to cohabitate with Buck.
We don’t leave them unservised alone and never will be able to, but when we are home, even my kids now (if I am not home) they can all be together and trusted without an extra eye on them. Titan and Buck just don’t lay down together or play together or hang out together. They all go outside together. When there is food around TItan and Buck can sit side by side and ignore each other : )
So it CAN be done. But it takes time, patience, consistency and commitment.
I have never seen a day hate another dog as much as Titan hated Buck, but he learned to cohabitate with force free redirection and consistency.
I see a lot of posts about cats not coming home, or dogs not having recall once off leash. Though we try to control animals they have free will.
When they don’t come back it’s not always personal. Sometimes they feel too confined.
Dogs for example – if they rarely get off leash, when they do they’ll be excited happy and wild! Like a kid would be if of made them sit still all the time. Once off leash – This freedom for them feels glorious. If they are running and you react, tie them back up, scold them, etc they will run farther , faster, and longer next time because they are afraid of their freedom healing taken away. They want choices like we all have. They NEED time to run and if they aren’t given that time, especially certain breeds, they WILL bolt off leash. Yes we have to teach them not to, but all the “training” in the world won’t work if they aren’t allowed to run, ever. Or often enough.
When they are celebrating freedom and you are mad, upset, panicked, they’re not going to want to come back to you, if your dog bolts make coming back fun! Run the other way playfully, calling them in a fun want not panicked. Go back and forth, towards and away, toward and away, make it a game of them chasing you.
Cats, if they are strictly house cats without enough enrichment and exercise they may try to escape. Again, for exercise and freedom. I am a big advocate for house cats living inside for safety. But if they live inside you must provide enough exercise and enrichment for them to be happy and feel they have e choices and freedom. If not, they may try to run off.
If your cat runs off just leave your scented items outside and stay calm. Call them calmly at feed times when they are expecting you to call them. If you have a house cat that took off it’s probably already scared and hiding, if you are calling in panic they will panic more. So call at feed time the exact same way you would if they were in the house.
Mostly allow animals freedoms and choice when you can safely so they don’t feel the need to “bolt” and not return
The world we live in expects way too much of domestic animals. We ask them to be something other than what they are because our world is human centered. We do this by asking them NOT to engage in behaviors that ARE who they are (dogs, cats, horses, etc…). Why? Because those behaviors don’t line up with human life.
Our pets are doing their best to understand our world, adapt to it, and to live in it. We humanize them. This is not terrible. In fact, it is often how we show love. And yes, they DO have all the emotions humans have, so it’s easy to do.
But… we have to remember they are still animals. They still have instincts, even though they are domestic. And since they are a different species than us, their needs are different. Expecting them to let go of the traits and the behaviors that are part of who they are is unfair. Yet, so many of us do it. Most of us do it to some degree.
Despite this, the amount of patience and forgiveness they continue to extend to us is unwavering. It’s mind blowing actually. No matter how many times YOU ask them to be something they aren’t, they still try. And most of the time they follow our rules that take away most of their natural behaviors. It’s quite sad actually.
The majority of pets in this world are misunderstood or held to unreasonable expectations. But, they are loved. Love isn’t enough. You owe it to your pet to allow them to be what they are. A dog, a cat, a horse, a bird, etc..)
Please take the time to read through this if you love your pet. It may just give you a different perspective and make you realize you might be expecting too much.
You may skip to the section relevant to the type of pets you have, but please take note at the end there is a paragraph that applies to ALL species of pets. Please visit that too!
Let’s start wtih dogs because they are so popular. Barking – We ask them not to bark, tell them to “shut up” at times. Their bark is their VOICE! Imagine if you could never talk. How frusteraed would you be? They bark for a reason. You may not know what that reason is but they have one. Maybe it is just to be heard! Maybe they are frusterated with always being told NOT to use your voice. Maybe, they are protecting or alerting you, the only way they know how. What may not seem like danger to you, can seem like danger to them. And when you shame them for doing so, that hurts their heart. When they bark, thank them. Please, I beg you, thank them. They are simply displaying DOG behaviors. They have a voice too.
Sniffing – We’ve all seen the memes. Sniffing is like reading email for dogs. It’s like a phone call or a text. It’s like browsing the internet. It’s how they gather information. They need to gather information to feel safe, secure, and enriched. If you always pull them away from tings they are sniffing they lose the ability to gather information. They will feel more confused, more afraid, and more unsure. They will feel like they are missing out on something. How many times do you search the internet, read a book, get a call or a text? You gather information for the vast majority of the day. Can you allow them the same? Don’t rush them on walks. Let them sniff. If you come home with something new, show them and let them sniff. If you don’t allow them to sniff, they feel isolated and frusterated. They need an expanded world, like we do. Too much of their lives are spent just in our house. They need MORE. And sniffing can expand their world. When you walk, and even just bringing new things into the house.
Pulling – Quite simply, dogs walk faster than us. That is why they pull. Why do we have to force them to walk slower? If you can’t let them off leash, YOU walk faster. Are they pulling because you never let them sniff? Let them sniff. They want to be in front to keep you safe. Pulling is not disobedienace, it’s dogs being dogs.
Now I understand they can be injured pulling (neck, windpipe, etc) so we do have to find modifications (harness, walk faster, or simply, let them walk in front of you).
Digging/Chewing – This is a natural behavior for dogs. It provides comfort, relaxation, and enruchment. It’s part of who they are, it’s that simple. If we do not give them the opportunity to do these things we are taking away their core behaviors. The behaviors that keep them mentally healthy and stimulated. Behaviors they find FUN and fufilling because it is in their DNA to do these things. We have domesticated them but they still hold onto species specific behaviors and that is what these are.
Emotions- How often do we ask dogs not to show emotions? Almost always. When dogs get excited, we ask them to calm down. That is how they show excitment! Jumping around, bouncing, running, etc.. It’s their expression of joy, happiness, and love.
When they growl or show teeth they are requesting space in THEIR language. They are asking kindly even though it seems they aren’t. To them, it IS kind. It is a warning. They are telling you they are NOT comfortable, they don’t feel safe, or they just need a break. When you are in those situations you can walk out and leave. Or, we’ve all done it, we snap… yell for a minute, slam a door, then feel better. That’s all dogs are doing! But they are doing it in the only way they know how. The way that has been bred into their species. Yet we ask them NOT to show their emotions. Imagine having to keep your inside? As a human, you’d eventually explode. Guess what… they do too.
These are just a few ways we ask dogs to be something other than who they are.
Now Cats….
Hunting – We ask domestic cats to live inside and this prevents them from engaging in the natural behavior of hunting. Something that provides them with mental and physical enrichment and exercise. When they aren’t allowed to hunt, they will bite and scratch humans, fight with other cats, or do anyhing they can to mimick hunting behavior. They don’t know any other way! Yes keeping them inside is safer, so I agree with that. But if you are going to do that, you must provide hunting simulation. Either by playing WITH them in hunting fashion or providing visual stalking enrishment (bird feeder, TV, etc..)
Scratching – Not only do humans expect cats NOT to scratch walls or furniture, sometimes they even declaw them! Scratching is a natural behavior for cats. It provides comfort, relaxation, and enruchment. It’s part of who they are, it’s that simple. It’s how they keep their area clean when they use the bathroom (burying it). It is a core part of being a cat. So please give them places to scratch. Their wellness depedns on it.
Hissing/Biting – This is their communication. It is how they tell you when they are uncomfortable, feel unsafe, or need space. It is like they ASKING you to leave them alone. Not if you don’t listen to their polite ask, YES they will probably bite harder, attack, etc… But in their defense they already warned you. If they are showig you they are not OK with something, it is unfair to ignore their request and force something on them. Asking them to keep their emotions inside is NOT healthy or fair.
Ok, how about horses?
Stalls – Horses are meant to walk and graze. Their digestion is dependent on movement. When we ask them to live in stalls we are taking away their bodies ability to digest properly. We are taking away their enrichment and exercise. Having a horse in a stall for more than a few hours is no different than having a dog in a crate. Why do horse people feel it’s different? It isn’t. Some horses live in stalls 22 hours a day. If anyone had a dog in a crate for 22 hours people would be up in arms about it. But it’s ok for horses? Why? The ratio of the size of the area compared to the size of the animal is the same. Horses need to be outside, moving, for as many hours as possible. They need it mentally and for their physical health.
Kicking/biting – This is the way they communicate that something hurts or is making them scared or uncomfortable. Can it hurt us? Yes, it can! But, if we choose to work with these big animals we are choosing to take that risk. If you punish them for showing you something hurts, they will stop showing you until it becomes so unbearable they explode. And they it will be a lot more dangerous for you.
Bucking/rearing – When we put horses under saddle we again are accepting the risk that their behavior may hurt us because of their size. But it is again unfair to punish them for displaying these behaviors (bucking, rearing, etc). Those behaviors are them telling us something horse, something is confusing, or it’s just too much pressure. They are communicating with us the only way they know how. So instead of punishing them, take a step back and be softer, fix your riding, allow them grace. THANK THEM for showing you something is not right. It is a privledge to ride a horse, they do not owe that to us. So if it is not 100% comfortable for them, YES they should tell us in the way they can. And YES, we should change something so it IS 100% comfortable for them. But humans have a hard time accepting they (the human) is the one making the mistake. Trust me… it’s almost always the human.
Now what about ALL the animals as a collective …
All of the animals I have mentioned are herd, pack, colony, etc.. They are bred to ive in groups of some sort. Yet, we keep horses alone. We ask dogs to be the only, cats to the be only. Imagine being the ONLY human in a group of dogs?? Ok wait, that might actually be pretty awesome!
Seriously though, imagine being the only human, in a group that speaks an entirely different language and lives an entirely different lifestyle. Could you be as patient as your pets are? Companionship of the same species is important for ALL living beings. (Yes I do know there are rare exceptions of animals that don’t get along with others).
But also, remember on the flip side, our animals do not have to like every human they meet, every dog they meet, every cat they meet, or every horse they meet. The same goes for goats, birds, rabbits, etc.. All animals have personality and energy and some won’t get along with each other. And that is ok! Just like you will have best friends, acquaintences, and others you don’t really like too much. Animals should be allowed the same opinions on others. They are individuals like us.
Now I am NOT an advocate of rehoming pets. So when household pets don’t get along, I do truly beleive it is the humans responsibility to accommodate. Have differen parts of the house for each animal, work through the dislike as much as possible, allow decompression and personal space. The paragraph about is more about not expecting your pet to be a social butterfly. Some will be, some won’t. Honor who they are.
Now let’s talk about animals and humans. We love them… oh do we love them! we want to kiss them, hold them, pat them. But sometimes they need space! Just like we do. If they are not in the mood to be kissed, hugged, petted, give them space. Don’t take it personally. It doesn’t mean they don’t love you. They just need quiet time now and then like we do. They don’t have to accept being kissed and hugged every waking moment. Sometimes they want peace and quiet. You know your pet. Show them love, but when they walk away because they have had enough, let them walk away. Don’t chase them. Don’t hold them forcing them to stay. Let them leave.
Honor their personality. Don’t try to change it. Honor their species. They are bred to be a certain way. Honor their forgiveness and patience. When you think about how challenging their world is, even in a home full of love, it truly gives you a different appreciation for how much they tolerate
My passion and my reason for doing this job is for these animals to be heard and understood in a world that asks so much for them. If you read this, you are trying. Thank you. Thank you for trying to learn how to understand them and create a better world for them.
If you move, take them. You would take your child.
If your pet develops a behavioral issue, show them love, patience and understanding. Change what is happening. Don’t blame them or give up on them. Their behavior is their communication. They are trying to tell you something is wrong.
If you have a baby, keep your pet. It takes time, patience and understanding. Teach your pet how to be safe and respectful near your baby. Teach your child to be safe and respectful around your pet. The same expectation goes both ways.
If you adopt a pet, you are committed. It won’t be easy right away. It won’t be easy for a while. But be patient, make accommodations, make changes, make it EASY for your pet. It should be easy for them, hard for you. Not the opposite. But if you expect it to be easy for you, it will be hard for them. Give them TIME. So much time. These are the sacrifices we make to make them feel safe, loved, welcomed, and relaxed.
If something in your home or routine doesn’t work for your pet, change it. Don’t try to change the pet’s behavior or reaction.
Don’t give up on your pet. When it’s the hardest, that is when they need YOU most. They need your love, your patience, your understanding. They need you to help them. Not give up on them.
If your pet needs exercise, accommodate. If your pet needs your time, accommodate. If your pet needs to avoid a certain situation or person, accommodate. If your pet needs space, accommodate. This is how you build trust, love and a true relationship with them.
Animals are too often expected to adapt to our lives. But the trust is, they are the ones that are less capable so we need to adapt our lives to THEM. Just like we would with children. When you have a child your life will change. The same applies when you have animals. Expect your life to change.
Animals are willing to do anything and everything we ask if we take the time to teach them slowly and in a way they can understand. There is no purer form of love or loyalty on this planet.
When our animal “react” they need our support not our discipline. They need kind leadership, not punishment.
“Reactions” come from uncertainty or fear. Think of a reaction as a cry for help. That’s what it is. Animals are like children, they really are. If you child is scared or uncertain you would deescalate the situation, not make it worse with yelling, screaming or assertive tactics. Do the same for your pet.
* Be calm
* Be a leader (which means be confident) that they KNOW will keep them safe. So many people get nervous BEFORE their pet reacts… this is why the animal reacts! The human is scared, so the animal thinks there is something to be afraid of!
* Be proactive. If you know there is something that triggers your pet, avoid it when you can. This creates less stress hormone in them.
* Have a plan. A plan that involves deesclation with calmness, patience and clarify.
* Take your pet to a quiet spot after a reaction. Let the animal unwind and relax. Hug them, kiss them, comfort them. This is not rewarding “bad” behavior. This is showing them they are safe and giving them time for the stress hormones to subside. After a “reaction” it takes time for the stress level to go down. They need quiet space and love for this to happen. And you have 3 seconds when correcting animals, 3 seconds that’s it! By the time you get out of the trigger space, 3 seconds have passed. So if you are angry at your animal, scolding your dog, etc… your pet has NO IDEA why. Too much time has passed.
We MUST take care of our animals mental health. This is so often overlooked with pets. But it should not be. Allowing them to unwind, post reaction, with love, hugs and comfort is not rewarding them. It is letting them know they are safe and loved with you. It is mental health time, for them.
