Your Pet’s Emotions

January 26, 2025October 23, 2025

Letting Pets Say Good-Bye

The majority of homes have multiple pets. What happens when it is time for one pet to cross the rainbow bridge? Will the others know? Will they be sad?

At a spiritual level, yes, the other pets will know. But at the physical level they need to say GoodBye.

Most animals have loving relationships with the other pets in the home (or barn). They form bonds and friendships. There are even many circumstances where a “pair’ is together for a decade or longer.

Yes, the transition of one will make the other sad. Maybe even depressed.

Yes, if you don’t explain things to your pet they will wonder why the other pet just disappeared or never came home (barn).

Here are some ways to make this difficult event easier for the other animals in the home.

In either situation, leave something that belonged to your angel pet around the house/barn. Something the others animals can visit, stay close to, to feel comfort from. And explain again.

Explain to the other(s) what will happen and why.

Bring your pets together and tell them all it is time to say GoodBye.

Ideally, allow the remaining pets to see, smell, and process the angel pet’s body after the angel has transitioned.

If that is not possible, allow your angel pet to lay on a blanket while transitioning, wear a collar, or halter or have something on its body. Keep this on during the transition. Bring this item back to the other pets in the home/barn and leave it somewhere the animals frequent. The item (ideally a blanket or collar) will have the angel’s scent, as well as the scent of physical death (harsh term, I know. But it’s what animals smell). The animals will smell these scents and know what happened.

If you do the things above, the pets will understand and process the change. They will be sad. They will grieve. Like humans do.

Don’t forget them in the grieving process. They will need extra love and attention. Especially if they are the last animal left in the home, alone. Or if they lose the friend they were with for decades. Keep checking on them. Keep loving them.

And lastly, YES your angel pet will visit and your in house pets will see and feel the angel. This will help at a spiritual level. But like human, animals have a spiritual level and a physical level. The physical level will continue to grieve, missing their physical friend. Even though, like us, we know the angel is around.

Pets develop friendships, deep love, and connection with each other. They need you to help them get through it.

January 23, 2025January 23, 2025

Separation Anxiety

Talk to your pet like you’d talk to another human. You would not walk out of the house without saying a word if your partner or child was in the same room, or likely even in the house. You’d tell them you’re leaving and maybe even for how long and what you’re doing. Tell your pet:

* You’re leaving

* You’re coming back (very important for pets with separation anxiety)

* How long you expect to be gone

* Where you’re going

Pets are very intuitive. They understand and the know. They know more than you think they do.

January 23, 2025January 23, 2025

Who’s Point Of View?

The more you start looking at animals as equals and seeing their emotions, behaviors and quirks from their point of view, the happier they will be. They will engage more. They will open up more. Their personalities will shine more. They will behavior “better”. They will understand more.

I was always a gentle, patient, and kind guardian. 20 years ago I had happy pets. But I was seeing them from a human perspective. I was humanizing them. Placing my emotions and thoughts on them instead of trying to see their own thoughts and emotions and perspectives. I was placing my human ideas of why they behaved a certain way.

Now, holy cow! My pets are a level of happy that I never knew existed! All because I started seeing things from THEIR perspective, THEIR understanding, THEIR thoughts and emotions and most importantly their WHY behind their behaviors. Not the why I placed on their behavior, from a human perspective. I thought I was seeing things from their perspective often, but I wasn’t. I let human thoughts and emotions get in the way.

January 23, 2025January 23, 2025

Your Equal

When you see your animals as equals instead of something you “own” your entire relationship will change for the better.

I have always loved animals. I have always been an animal person. I always did the best I knew how to do and followed what I thought was the right way to do things. I was always kind, never forceful. My animals have always been happy and loved. They were always happy.

But, I didn’t always see their behaviors from their perspective. I saw it through mine in my 20s and early 30s. Once I started really communicating with animals, lots of them, I started seeing their behavior from their perspective and it changed everything!

January 20, 2025January 23, 2025

Preferred Phrases

When I talk with the animals they often share preferred phrases with me. When they do, I make a commitment to use these terms.

Recently, pets have used the word “transition” instead of “euthanasia”, “dying”, and even “passed”.

I often ask them why. With this the general consensus is because they are not moving on in any way, they are transitioning into a different form, still as actively involved in their guardians’ lives.

January 20, 2025January 23, 2025

Gifts From Your Pet

If your pet brings you something – anything, thank them.

It could be a toy, a kill, a stick, a bone, even your shoe! Whatever it is, it is their way of gifting you something to show their love.

So many pets get “in trouble” for bringing a sock or a shoe or an item belonging to a human. Trust me there is not a more flattering gift. It has your scent. Your animal is showing you how special you are. And bringing you something that is YOURS! To be helpful and to show love.

January 20, 2025January 23, 2025

Are You Hurting Your Pet’s Feelings?

There are a few things humans do that unintentionally hurt their animals feelings. I will post about these over the next week or two.

The first is teasing – I see a lot of clips on IG of animals being teased… now some of it is funny! The cheese test (as long as you give your pet the cheese after). But most of it just confuses animals. They don’t understand teasing like humans do and they take everything literally.

They think you are laughing AT them. This hurts their feelings.

They think they are in trouble or a disappointment.

They think they’ve done something wrong.

They wonder why their guardian wants to “annoy” them.

Most importantly, teasing affects your relationship with your pet. It scars the trust. Animals are all forgiving beings so yes they get over it but in that moment they are hurting, they are sad, they are confused.

January 20, 2025January 23, 2025

Let’s Talk Nicknames!

We all have nicknames for our dogs. Usually many. Most of the time these nicknames are completely different from their given names.

Names carry energy, just like all words.

The wrong nickname can make your pet feel very bad.

When you are using nicknames please sure sure the nickname has good energy. Make sure it is positive. Otherwise, your pets self esteem will suffer and your pet may develop nuisance behaviors as an effect. Your pet’s energy will be affected by any name you use to address your pet.

January 20, 2025January 23, 2025

Mental Health For Pets

Animals mental health is AS IMPORTANT as their physical health.

When pets display undesirable behaviors a lot of guardians look for physical issues or ailments to explain the behaviors. Especially when those behaviors came with sudden onset.

Looking for physical “reasons” is very important and should always be done. But guardians should also look for mental health reasons.

Is your pet trying to tell you something with its behavior? Most certainly.

Your pet can be alterting you to a physical or mental health issue.

A vet can of course with physical health. But you, or a communicator are what is needed for mental health.

October 22, 2023January 23, 2025

Despite so many pet’s being loved society places an unrealistic expectation on a pet’s ability to show emotions, especially dogs. When I communicate with the animals the most common complaint is having to repress their emotions. When it gets really frustrating for them, many animals will demonstrate behavioral issues as a show of their emotions or they finally show their emotions and are frowned upon for doing so.

Think of your pet’s as children. They are dependent on us and their communication skills are not equivalent to an adult’s. When you think of pets in that way, it is unfair to expect more from them. Yes, must in some ways adapt to our way of life as humans. Even though they are domesticated animals they are in fact animals. And animals live and communicate differently than humans do. However, they have instincts, opinions and emotions just like humans. Make your pet’s emotional health a priority.