Animals are very sensitive to energy. That’s why the words we use and the names we call them affect them so much. They become that energy.
They don’t understand jokes, so if we say “youre a pain in the butt”, even if we are joking, they feel we are being serious. Humans joke all the time. We may call them stubborn or a brat as a joke. Or maybe we mean it! But either way, to them, the words we say are true. So they feel like they are stubborn or a brat and they will become that way.
If we say they are aggressive, reactive, or mean, they will be that way. They think they are being what we want them to be because we label them that way!
Sometimes, again joking, we may say our pet is “not smart”, dumb, or stupid. Guess what? That hurts their feelings and they will again starting acting in a way that matches their label. Why? To try to please us. They think that’s what we want them to be because we label them that way.
I wish humans knew how much the words they use affect their pets emotionally and affect their pets behaviors, even if you’re joking!
If you tell them they are a lot of work, annoying, or frustrating they will be. Then imagine THEIR frustration when you are frustrated with them being what they think you want them to be!
Try to use labels that create the type of pet behaviors you want to encourage. Try to use labels that make your pet feel confident, safe, and happy! Try to use labels that make your pet feel loved and appreciated.
Label them as * smart. *funny * brave * agreeable * easy * and other similar terms.
Say to your pet “youre so easy to live with. “
“You make my days so easy”
“You are fun to be around!!”
“You are SO smart!”
“You do everything right.”
“You fit in seamlessly!”
There are so many ways to label our pets with positive, uplifting, beautiful labels. So many labels we can use that help them be the best they can be. So many labels that make the dynamics in the house easier instead of harder.
If you want to know how your pet feels with the words and communication in the house you can give your pet a chance to talk during a reading.
