New Animals In the Home/Barn

When you bring a new pet into your home or barn they will be living in a state of stress for the first week or more.

To them, its like being dropped into a foreign country without notice. A place where you don’t know anyone and no one speaks your language. A place where you don’t understand the language.

Their cortisol is going to be HIGH from this stress even when you have “saved” them. They are too stressed to know they’ve been saved.

They are going to be overwhelmed, make mistakes, and have accidents.

They are going to lack sleep, be confused, and try to protect themselves.

They are going to be living in survival mode.

If more people understood this and had the patience these animals deserve during this stressful time, more animals would stay in their homes (and not be returned). And more animals will settle in SOONER because instead of adding to their stress, your understanding and patience can minimize their stress.

Trying to be too friendly too quick, causes stress. Smothering them or introducing them to lots of new people, new animals or new places can cause stress.

Any animal moving to a new home (or barn) is going to feel ENORMOUS stress no matter how “good” the home is.

You won’t see the animal you truly have in your family for weeks. What they show you will be cortisol driven, survival driven.

Let them settle at their own pace without any expectations at all.

Allow them grace during their mistakes. Ignore the mistakes. I can promise you they are already worried. Knowing they “messed up” makes everything even harder for them.

Most importantly put yourself in their shoes, see the word from their perspective.

If you had no idea you were moving, but suddenly got dropped off in a foreign country where no one speaks your language and where you can’t understand the language. How would YOU feel?

Then imagine feeling the energy of those around you being impatient, knowing you made mistakes, but you don’t understand what those mistakes where. How would YOU feel?

Imagine trying to communicate and no one understanding. How would YOU feel?

Imagine living under expectations that you have never heard of? Not being taught with patience and kindness, just expected to know. How would YOU feel?

That’s how our animals feel.

But you can make their “move” safe and comfortable just by giving them time, patience and love. Releasing ALL expectations. And letting them show you when they are ready to open up, meet others, and go new places.

Blind Love

Angie Morin:
Our pets follow us blindly. They are the most loyal being you will EVER have in your life. Their love and their loyalty is a GIFT that should be protected, treasured, and honored.

  • We put them in cars and trailers to bring them places. They have no idea if these places will be safe or if they will stay with us. They just trust us and go, often willingly.

Unfortunately when animals are rehomed, these “rides” aren’t what they had hoped.

  • We bring them to new places all the time which they often enjoy! But they trust us, that the location is safe for them.
  • We bring them to the vet, it can hurt. They may be afraid or nervous, but they still go because we asked them to.
  • We ask them to meet new people, new animals. They try, and they trust those new faces will be friendly and kind.
  • We often ask others to watch them when we cant (travel, work, etc.). Sometimes we even leave them in places other than home. They go. They stay. Sometimes they are scared or nervous. They wait endlessly for our return, no matter how long that may be. They trust that we will come back.

We owe it to them to keep them safe, emotionally, physically, and spiritually.

What does this mean?

  • Managing YOUR energy because they will absorb it. If you hold anger, frustration, annoyance, or worse, even if the emotion is NOT directed at your pet, your pet WILL feel it is, and will absorb that energy.
  • Never put them in a situation that will be too overwhelming for them. And if you do accidentally, remove them immediately. Your animal doesn’t have to tolerate every human or animal. It’s ok to tell someone to step away from your pet or to get off your horse. You are their voice. They trust YOU.
  • If you have someone watching them, always be vigilant. Always check up on them. Always! You would not leave your kid for a week or even days, without checking in and talking to your kid.
  • Advocate for your animal. If something isn’t ok with your animal, say so. You are trusted to enforce your animals boundaries. They need you too.
  • Give them space. Sometimes animals just need space, like people. They need to be alone.

They will follow you loyally, blindly, every single day of their life. Even when you make a mistake. Even the undeserving humans that neglect or hurt their animals intentionally, even those humans have animals that will follow the blindly and be loyally devoted for their entire life.

They give you their whole heart, they trust you with their life, wrap your head around how deep that loyalty and love is. Wrap your head around how valuable that gift is. When you really think about how valuable and precious that gift is, do you see why you carry such a big responsibility now? The responsibility to protect them, love them and care for them equally as much as they do you, every single day, for the rest of that animals life.

Angie Morin:
Our pets follow us blindly. They are the most loyal being you will EVER have in your life. Their love and their loyalty is a GIFT that should be protected, treasured, and honored.

  • We put them in cars and trailers to bring them places. They have no idea if these places will be safe or if they will stay with us. They just trust us and go, often willingly.

Unfortunately when animals are rehomed, these “rides” aren’t what they had hoped.

  • We bring them to new places all the time which they often enjoy! But they trust us, that the location is safe for them.
  • We bring them to the vet, it can hurt. They may be afraid or nervous, but they still go because we asked them to.
  • We ask them to meet new people, new animals. They try, and they trust those new faces will be friendly and kind.
  • We often ask others to watch them when we cant (travel, work, etc.). Sometimes we even leave them in places other than home. They go. They stay. Sometimes they are scared or nervous. They wait endlessly for our return, no matter how long that may be. They trust that we will come back.

We owe it to them to keep them safe, emotionally, physically, and spiritually.

What does this mean?

  • Managing YOUR energy because they will absorb it. If you hold anger, frustration, annoyance, or worse, even if the emotion is NOT directed at your pet, your pet WILL feel it is, and will absorb that energy.
  • Never put them in a situation that will be too overwhelming for them. And if you do accidentally, remove them immediately. Your animal doesn’t have to tolerate every human or animal. It’s ok to tell someone to step away from your pet or to get off your horse. You are their voice. They trust YOU.
  • If you have someone watching them, always be vigilant. Always check up on them. Always! You would not leave your kid for a week or even days, without checking in and talking to your kid.
  • Advocate for your animal. If something isn’t ok with your animal, say so. You are trusted to enforce your animals boundaries. They need you too.
  • Give them space. Sometimes animals just need space, like people. They need to be alone.

They will follow you loyally, blindly, every single day of their life. Even when you make a mistake. Even the undeserving humans that neglect or hurt their animals intentionally, even those humans have animals that will follow the blindly and be loyally devoted for their entire life.

They give you their whole heart, they trust you with their life, wrap your head around how deep that loyalty and love is. Wrap your head around how valuable that gift is. When you really think about how valuable and precious that gift is, do you see why you carry such a big responsibility now? The responsibility to protect them, love them and care for them equally as much as they do you, every single day, for the rest of that animals life.

Don’t Rush Your Pets

There are so many things our animals don’t understand about our human world. Yes, we ask them to understand. In fact, many humans just expect and assume they understand.

We live in a world of instant gratification. Animals don’t work that way. They don’t show up knowing how to be a well-mannered, human world adapted being. They need to be taught with kindness, love, patience and TIME.

Animals can’t be rushed. They don’t understand “hurry”. It’s very confusing to them. They aren’t on a time schedule like we are. They live in the present and the celebrate every small thing that happens in their day. They don’t have any desire to rush through their day, like humans do.

When humans try to rush animals it can scare them or frustrate them. It can cause stress and anxiety because they feel YOUR rushed energy. That feels chaotic to them. At the LEAST it will confuse them.

Don’t rush them! Just because you’re in a hurry, don’t assume they are. I can guarantee they aren’t. In fact, maybe they are here to teach us that taking our time to notice and celebrate all the little things in our daily life is the best way to be happy.

Maybe they’re here to slow you down. To make you notice the things in life that really matter. Like the extra time you took to play with your cat. Or the walks you took with your dog. Or maybe that trail ride you took your horse on. Or just not rushing your pet out the door when it’s time to leave because youre running late for their vet appt.

Animals do not understand rushing or hurrying or “being late” and that will never change. Those are human problems not animal problems. So if you want to be the best guardian you can be for your pets, don’t rush them, don’t hurry them. Let them move at their pace. Because I can tell you their pace allows for a fuller and more beautiful life with less stress.

Shredding and Other ” Naughty” Behaviors

Humans tend to view many animal behaviors as destructive behaviors. However, to an animal, these are natural behaviors they need to engage in. I want to start a thread where you can ask about a common animal behavior (any species) often labeled as destructive. I will give you the reason for the behavior, that fits the majority.

I can’t answer about specific pets or unique behaviors. I would need to connect with your animal to do that. However, I can answer about common behaviors that most animals exhibit. The majority answer may or may not apply to your specific pet, but it is my hope that it will apply to the majority of those reading that have animals displaying the behavior.

We have domesticated our animals. But we have NOT domesticated many of their natural behavioral instincts and it is very important to remember that if you want a happy and healthy pet. They have adapted so well to domestication and living in a human world, but they still have instincts and behaviors from their ancestors and always will. They will still have their own species needs and behaviors.

Here’s an example: Shredding (dogs)

Dogs will shred toys, often pulling out a squeaker, or at the least the fluff.
Dogs will shred pillows and rip up blankets.
Dogs may even rip up a couch cushion.

Why do dogs do this? The majority of dogs do this because it mimics their hunting and eating behavior. As a pack they will bite, pull, tear the meat off their prey. This is how they eat. Ripping it apart piece by piece. This behavior causes calmness, satisfaction, and accomplishment.

It also engages their nose as they move things around to decide which piece to tear out next. It engages their brain again, like a puzzle, which piece to pull out next. And it exercises their jaw (like chewing). Dogs must maintain a strong jaw (the jaw has muscles) for survival.

And that is why dogs love to shred.

It is your job as a guardian to provide them with acceptable items to shred so they can satisfy this instinct. There are even toys that you can restful over and over and over! And if you really want to help your dog feed “wild”, take those restuffable toys and add pieces of for or treats in there for them to find! Then they really will be eating!

Borrowing From Heaven

Always remember we are just borrowing our pets from heaven. Their souls are too beautiful and too full of love to stay here as long as we do. They come, on borrow, to bring us true love and joy and make our life better. 

When they leave to go back they take a piece of our heart. When we arrive and are greeted by all our animals our hearts become whole again, every single one of them holding a piece of it. We are finally complete again. 

And that is what loving an animal is. It’s sending a piece of our heart to heaven with each one, for them to take care of for us until we arrive. Because only our animals are capable of protecting our hearts fully and completely. No other being on this earth is.

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Difficult Animals

Animals that bite, growl, scratch, buck, rear, kick or bolt are often labeled as dangerous or difficult.

These animals are NOT that at all. They are usually the most sensitive animals.

These animals resort to these behaviors, which are forms of communication, because their more subtle, polite ways of communicating to tell you something is wrong, have been ignored.

They have run out of ways to communicate gently so they are using the only form of communication they have left. It’s always a last resort for these animals. By the time they get to that point they have been pushed so far there is no other option.

These animals need patience, understanding, and most importantly someone that is willing to observe and listen to the whispers.

These animals are loving, sensitive sentient beings that have had their voices ignored too many times. They are not dangerous or difficult. Starting listening to them and theyll show you who they truly are.

Your Pet’s Favorite Things

Here is a very simple way to add to your pets day!

Make a list of pet favorite things to do that they do not already do on a daily basis.

Examples:

Interactive play with you

Go for a walk (cats can do this too!)

Hand Graze

Their favorite snack (not something they get all the time)

Visit the pet store

Get a pup cup

An hour of extra turnout

Extra long grooming/massage

A formal massage

An alternative therapy treatment (reiki, magna wave, etc.)

A hike

Getting a new gift (toy, bed, treat)

A hack ride (for show horses)

A trip to the beach or a lake

Take a nap together (our animals LOVE to sleep with us)

Eat together and share your food

Go somewhere new

The list is ENDLESS. The key is pick things your pets don’t do daily. Then commit to doing one of these things for them every single day. Don’t skip out on their daily walk though! The list is meant to be in addition to their already established routine.

This will add variety to their days. This will add enrichment. This will give them something to look forward to! This will be fun for both of you. Most importantly, it will give you and your animals more quality time together, deepening your bond.

And you can make it a celebration. You can pick the activity out of a jar if you have a lot of time. If you are short on time, pick something quick, but still commit to doing something for them each day.

If every day is too much, then commit to one day a week. One day a week to do something from the list you make.

The key is consistency. It’s easy to do it for a week or a month. But can you commit to giving your pet a lifetime of 30 minutes or an hour a day that is all about them? We have 24 hours a day to work with, giving them a small portion that is focused on them and all about them, will be relationship changing in the best way. They deserve it.

Want to know what your pets favorite things to do are?

A Powerful Quote From A Dog

“Things can get better but I will never be perfect. “

It is important we always remember this.

Our animals can be easy to live with, they can learn our expectations, routines, and way of communicating. They can learn appropriate behaviors. They can learn how to adapt to this human world.

But they can never be perfect. They will make mistakes. They will have accidents in the house. They will make messes.

I know most of us don’t expect them to be perfect. But do we expect them not to make mistakes at all?

They will still make messes. They might have an odd day. They might accidentally break something. They may have an accident in the house.

Sometimes we get the urge to need the bathroom quickly or unexpectedly but we can just go. It happens to them to. If no one is home, or they don’t have time to ask, or aren’t noticed when they do ask… they’ll have an accident. Even the best, cleanest animal.

And even more simple, humans make mistakes ALL the time. Animals will too.

So remember though you may not expect them to be perfect, do you expect them not to make mistakes in certain areas? I think some of us do.

But I do promise you, they don’t do it intentionally. They try their hardest NOT to make mistakes, even when they don’t fully know what we want.

Can You “UnChain” Your Dog (or other pet)?

Did you know that January is National Unchain A Dog Month 

While most of us would never physically chain our dogs, I’m reminded restrictions don’t just come from chains. 

Psychologically, yes chaining dogs is very harmful to them. It’s restricting. It usually  leads to aggression, insecurity, frustration, anxiety, fear, and mental decline. Chained dogs feel restricted physically and emotionally. But not all “chains” are metal. 

Though I know you all get it and don’t actually chain your dogs, lets think about how we “unchain” the non-metal chains for our loved pets. 

* We can “unchain” our expectations of our dogs. Let them be who they are and not label them as “stubborn” or “reactive”. Those labels limit a dogs expression and tell the dog thats who we want them to be! They feel our energy when we use those terms. 

* “The invisible chain” Sometimes even our loved house dogs feel restricted emotionally, mentally or energetically when their voices, requests, needs, and emotions aren’t heard or correctly understood. 

* We can give them “freedom”. Let them choose where to walk, when to leave the house with use and when not to. We can honor their preferences to food, space, routines, and touch.   Communication is the bridge that allows choice.  And we need to be willing to listen. 

When we communicate with our dogs and open ourselves up to what they are trying to communicate with us, we “unchain” their voices. When that happens something 

Shifts for them and for us. 

I am so grateful so many of you already live understand the value is keeping our dogs off physical chains. Our dogs deserve more than a life tied to a chain, physically or metaphorically. 

If possible, please help an organization that unchain dogs. There are many. They provide large kennels and doghouses  for the dogs. You can help through your time, a donation, or by spreading awareness. So many dogs ARE truly chained and even just doing one thing, one time, may help a chained dog become “unchained” and live a life that is more free. 

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Your Pet Becomes The Words You Use

Animals are very sensitive to energy. That’s why the words we use and the names we call them affect them so much. They become that energy.  

They don’t understand jokes, so if we say “youre a pain in the butt”, even if we are joking, they feel we are being serious.  Humans joke all the time. We may call them stubborn or a brat as a joke. Or maybe we mean it! But either way, to them, the words we say are true.  So they feel like they are stubborn or a brat and they will become that way.

If we say they are aggressive, reactive, or mean, they will be that way. They think they are being what we want them to be because we label them that way!

Sometimes, again joking, we may say our pet is “not smart”, dumb, or stupid. Guess what? That hurts their feelings and they will again starting acting in a way that matches their label. Why? To try to please us. They think that’s what we want them to be because we label them that way.

I wish humans knew how much the words they use affect their pets emotionally and affect their pets behaviors, even if you’re joking!

If you tell them they are a lot of work, annoying, or frustrating they will be.  Then imagine THEIR frustration when you are frustrated with them being what they think you want them to be!

Try to use labels that create the type of pet behaviors you want to encourage. Try to use labels that make your pet feel confident, safe, and happy! Try to use labels that make your pet feel loved and appreciated.

Label them as * smart. *funny * brave * agreeable * easy * and other similar terms.

Say to your pet “youre so easy to live with. “

“You make my days so easy”

“You are fun to be around!!”

“You are SO smart!”

“You do everything right.”

“You fit in seamlessly!”

There are so many ways to label our pets with positive, uplifting, beautiful labels. So many labels we can use that help them be the best they can be. So many labels that make the dynamics in the house easier instead of harder.

If you want to know how your pet feels with the words and communication in the house you can give your pet a chance to talk during a reading.

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